Often what I write comes straight from a place with something I struggle. I choose to be vulnerable, honest and open about what I've been through and how my thought process has grown over the years. It can be uncomfortable at times but I choose to do it anyway because I know that in order to grow and change, I must lean into the uncomfortable moments and learn from them. I choose to share simply because I hope to inspire someone else to learn and grow as well. I appreciate the challenge of others thoughts and I am thankful for the opportunity modern technology has given me to share with the world where I am at in my journey.
For me, vulnerability often equates to negative thoughts. I am working on this. I am proud to say that although perhaps no one but myself can see these results, I do. I know that my own negative thoughts have been tamed and a correct perception of truth has begun to rise in me.
Today I want to talk about one specific type of negative thought. It's the "they are judging me" thought.This one, left untamed, can tear us down to defeated in a matter of seconds just from a few whispers inside our heads- potentially untrue words at that. Let me explain.
We all have those moments where we feel "judged." Whether it be choices, physical appearances, life circumstances, beliefs...the list goes on. We live in a culture that is quick to judge each other and we all know this. We see others who are different or whom we think might believe differently than us and we instantly believe in our minds that they are thinking negative thoughts about our choices.
It's selfish, really. Why do I assume that everyone else is focused on me? And really, why, if I stand confident in my choices, do I care?
What if, just today, you stopped yourself from going down that thought road? Instead of believing that someone else is thinking about how they disagree with you, you chose to assume the best instead? You chose to assume that they respect you and your choices, that they respect the fact that you are a person of free will and they are happy with what makes you happy?
The thought process of which I strive:
1. Be confident in my decisions
2. Assume everyone else respects my decision, even if they might not agree
Of course it's not just that easy. It takes training, just as any slow learning process does.
Of course there are times when judgment does exist. I am not talking about outspoken and obvious judgment- that is a different battle.
I am talking about the assumption of judgement. It does us absolutely no good.
I am working towards not expending my mental energy and physical time on thoughts from others that honestly might not even be there.
Won't you join me?
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